You Can Lead a Horse to Water …
It is Friday. And the weather gods were calling for rain and thunderstorms, but they have yet to materialize. Which meant that it was a great night to get out of the house. We made good time both out and back. However on the ride out, we heard, several times, the “TONES OF DEATH !!!” on the Metro, meaning that there was a service stoppage while we were traveling. Thankfully, it did not include where we were going.
Good news on the horizon: Hubby could be gainfully employed as early as Tuesday. Let us say our prayers for that. That will make a huge difference in our living situation right now.
We sat a fair group tonight. We go to this meeting because of the people who go to that meeting. Because it is a point of outreach, for the newcomer. Very carefully crafted questions and requests are important here. There is one particular young man who comes – who seems to be on the bubble, and we listen to him, and tonight I caught a break with him, after the meeting he was sitting on the stairs outside and I asked him point blank if he was coming to the meeting on Thursday night. He responded that that was a crafty way of asking him if he would. like “you coming to the meeting ???” it’s a yes or a no. And he was receptive. And he said that he would be there.
Happy Happy Joy Joy !!!
From tonight’s reading: A.B.S.I. pg. 14
“You can’t make a horse drink water if he still prefers beer or is too crazy to know what he does want. Set a pail of water beside him, tell him how good it is and why, and leave him alone.”
“If people really want to get drunk, there is, so far as I know, no way of stopping this – so leave them alone and let them get drunk. But don’t exclude them from the water pail, either.”
This is a spin on the “You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink.” I had never read this particular passage about the pail and the conversation WITH the horse about it …
Imagine conversing with a horse about a pail of water !!!
One Idea repeated itself tonight.
The idea of presence. Presence is the greatest gift you can give another human being. Once I said it, other followed suit in their own voices.
There are two routes in sobriety. 1. The shove a book down your throat and do it may way, (or) 2. The easier gentler way of being there and being present and leading by example.
You can’t force feed folks. It is about humility and kindness. Not about ones ego or one having “the truth” and forgetting that we were there once.
It was a good night. Lots of good conversation.
One the way back we arrived at the connection point at Berri which connects with the Yellow Line that goes out to Ilse St. Helen, and the Ocheaga festival is going on and there were massive hoards of people making the transit off the yellow over to orange and green lines.
We got home without incident.
More to come, stay tuned …