Sunday Sundries – The After Party and then Some More
What a glorious day it was. And as I have said before, all good things must come to an end. The glorious day turned into a beautiful night.
Rain is coming for the next couple of days.
I woke this morning with one thing on my mind … My Turkey !!!
Having done this before – getting the bird into the oven early was my plan, but it was way too early. So around 11 I started baking. And I slow baked the bird for a 3 p.m. setting. And I timed it just perfectly.
We entertained a friend, a neighbor, a mentor, an elder statesman. When you “have” in sobriety, you “share.”
Because that’s who we are.
It’s what we do.
Nobody should be alone on a holiday.
There was plenty of food and lots of conversation. Hubby had someone else to tell about all the work he is doing for his organization. He was very entertaining.
After dinner I did the dishes and we set off just before 5 to set up for the meeting. It is very important to have the rooms open on the holiday. Because nobody should be alone on a holiday.
We sat a fair number. And it was a very interesting meeting.
Our reading came from the founder of Philadelphia A.A. and The Vicious Cycle.
“… At seventeen I entered university, really to satisfy my father, who wanted me to study medicine there as he had. That is where I had my first drink, and I still remember it, for every “first” drink afterwards did exactly the same trick – I could feel it go right through every bit of my body and down to my very toes.
But each drink after the first seemed to become less effective, and after three or four, they all seemed like water. I was never a hilarious drunk; the more I drank, the quieter I got, and the drunker I got, the harder I fought to stay sober.
So it is clear that I never had any fun out of drinking – I would be the soberest-seeming one in the crowd, and, all of a sudden, I would be the drunkest.
Even that first night I blacked out, which leads me to believe that I was an alcoholic from my very first drink.” pg. 222 B.B.
For many newly sober folks at the meeting, very few could identify with our man here. In the end, he was a “weekend warrior” drinking only on the weekends. And identified himself as a “weekend drinker.” He suffered from “I’ll show them-ism, and a little Big Shot-ism.
A friend commented on the text that you aren’t a weekend alcoholic, you are either an alcoholic or you are not. None of this weekend shit …
This story is eerily familiar. Because in the end I was the binge weekend drinker and blacking out was my nightly ending. And it was the fear of “What the Fuck” that brought me to my last drink.
The biggest take away from tonight’s meeting was the shared fellowship. That we are a people, who would not normally mix, yet under a common disease, we are all equals once we step across the threshold into the room.
It is more important on days like this that meeting halls all over the world are open to welcome the alcoholic. I’ve seen it time after time, some people who struggle so much that they can’t see their way out of the forest that is addiction for just a few hours.
And like many, they fail – go out – and drink – and some never returned.
It was a good night.
In Baby News …
This past week, there was a birth in my family. Yes I do have family. The only family who recognize that I live. My mother’s sister’s family is all that there is.
My Cousin Sandy’s -> daughter Jaime had her second child a couple of days ago, and she did not get to term. The baby was born well Premie – coming in at just over three pounds. Haven Lilee Rayne will spend the next month in hospital over in B.C. until she is strong enough to nurse and go home.
I spoke to my aunt last night and she assured me that Haven was well and will survive, even though she is a premie.
There has been nothing but hardship for my cousin’s family. And now it has spanned two generations. When my cousin had her two children, both were born with birth defects and needed multiple surgeries to make them right.
And when Jaime (her daughter) had her first daughter, Jaidyn, On August 11th 2011, Jaidyn was diagnosed with Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia. She was 3 years old then.
This past week, Jaidyn completed her last Chemo treatment. And she is in full remission. But will need surveillance for the next six months, getting a small dose of chemo each month.
Now Haven was born premature. Thankfully, she is healthy and will survive.
We pray for all of them tonight. Especially for Haven.
And now on to Holiday news … A bit brighter yes?
While getting ready for the day, and hubby was out running errands, I turned on the teevee and what was on ??? “HOME ALONE II.”
It is official, the holidays have begun. This, the first Christmas related movie on national tv. here in Canada. And just so you know …
THERE ARE 73 SHOPPING DAYS UNTIL CHRISTMAS !!!
And we end with more happy news …
If you YOU TUBE and are gay, you probably know Will and RJ. From their You Tube Channel (SHEP 689). They were Florida residents where they met in Tallahassee Florida.
(Not a very marriage worthy state we must say)
A couple of months ago, they headed to the West Coast and now reside in Los Angeles California. And this weekend was their 4th anniversary of being a couple.
Yesterday Will asked RJ to marry him on a sunset beach and RJ said YES!
So Congrats to our friends. Long life and happiness.
Go Follow them if you want.
This post was longer than I had originally thought.
It was a full day and this has been the past week in my life.
More to come, stay tuned …