Sunday Sundries … Project
Courtesy: Jack’s Empty Mind (from the special archives)
It has been a cold and rainy day today.
I’ve been having serious pain issues with my back, after that fall the other day. I have OTC medication that I am taking to sleep because the pain is so bad, I can’t lay down because it is like having someone stab me in the back with a poker and the pain radiates all the way around my body.
Pain actually got me out of bed earlier than I wanted this afternoon, so I got up and showered and got ready to go. I left a little early, but like I said it has been a miserable day today.
We only had a handful of folks, but we had a great celebration of 27 years by one of our founder women of Sunday Niter’s.
We finished up the story … Jim’s Story …
And tonight’s line that caught my attention was this:
“The November following, I took a few days off after payday to celebrate my birthday on the twenty fifth of the month. As usual I got drunk and lost the money. Someone had taken it from me. That was the usual pattern…”
So the story goes with me that I was a true alcoholic and did my birthday proud. My birthday celebrations would start seven days prior, Not that I was drinking any less, by any stretch, I actually drank more.
I would gather with my drinking friends at the bar, as usual, and the party would start. And each night the party would continue, with drinking to excess. And would culminate on my birthday with a grand drinking event complete with drag queens, dancing and frivolity.
It was fun for a while. Because drinking was just something we did.
It came naturally. But it ended in a near death experience and almost death. So was it really all that fun, to drink until you can’t stand up???
That is all I have for this night’s reading.
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The mall is coming along. They have worked tirelessly on the tunnel access to the Metro. The blockages are cleared, the columns are all painted and tiled. And the staircases have been finished.
Target is not far off for their grand opening, but there are no signs up advising of any opening. We think it may be tomorrow.
The mezzanine floor at the Atwater entrance is finished. They have tiled the entire floor and painted and worked on the ceiling. Work on the staircase and elevator bank is still ongoing.
The new shops on that floor are open and I am told IGA is still in process and folks are finding it hard to find things because of the shift in the store footprint.
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I have mentioned over the past few days the stories of some folks at our meeting that are stuck in the revolving door. One of those in particular is a woman I have known, for as long as I have been sober.
Recovery is Pastoral in scope, because we minister to each other on a daily or weekly basis, depending on when we see each other. But the effort is there nonetheless.
After the meeting tonight I approached her and I shared with her some observations and memories with her. Many she did not remember herself, because she was drunk half the time.
She’d been by the women’s T.B. meeting several times and is always overwhelmed with the folks there. And I asked her if any of the women reached out to her and welcomed her into their flock? And she said no.
Sadly, I have heard the same complaint from other women who tried to connect there. It seems there is a disconnect between the girls and who they choose to welcome and bring into the fold.
Anyways, in the end I hugged her and encouraged her to return to our meeting, (Sunday Niter’s) that we would work with her if nobody else did. I am hoping the encouragement and support will carry her through the holidays.
That’s how it works, one alcoholic working with another.
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I saw a video online You Tube the other day. A group in the states that work with homeless folks
Information about Degage Ministries: Serving 400-500 individuals daily, Dégagé Ministries offers help and hope to homeless and disadvantaged individuals in our community. Responsive programming is designed to address immediate and long-term needs such as overnight respite for women in crisis, food, referral services and hygiene facilities. While many of our services may seem “simple,” those who receive our services take nothing for granted. Often, it is the simplest of gestures that brings the most powerful results.
I thought to myself that this Christmas I would like to offer this to some of the homeless folks that frequent our meetings on a weekly basis.
For many years, we see the same men come and go, before and after the meeting. Most folks ignore them, and they become invisible. I thought that, after seeing that video above, that we could do that here in our own way. So I emailed the director of the video.
I thought we could get donated salon time at the salon I use in the mall, and Target is opening soon, I was thinking of asking the managers and staff to donate clothing from their store, so forth and so on.
You never know what you can do for someone who has nothing, and lives on the street and in shelters. And these men that I am thinking about are fixtures in our community, and deserve love and attention.
That’s what’s on my mind tonight. Not much but important.
More to come, stay tuned …