IT DEFINITELY GOT BETTER – 5 Years on …
It was the hope that the many voices around the world, would bring hope and strength to young people who were, at that time, suffering from bullies and negative attitudes.
The other night, a friend of mine, put up a video on the fifth year anniversary of his original video talking about just where he is right now, five years later. His message:
IT DEFINITELY GOT BETTER !!!
This blog has been the center of my life, for many years, and where we are today as a community is a result of all the work I have done for the past five years and more.
So much has changed in the last five years, that it would take me hours of going through past posts to give you an idea of just what happened.
I was 42 when It Gets Better began. I was beginning to figure out that wisdom was beginning to come and that has only deepened over the years. I am 47 today. I would not have changed anything about the journey.
In the gay world, the youngsters tend to think us old fogies are now, “Over the hill” and could not “possibly still be relevant.”
I assure you that I am not over the hill, nor irrelevant.
I have a history and a story that needs to be remembered and shared, because young people of today’s generation have no idea what it was like just twenty years ago. Because that is when the story really starts.
As Dickens writes: “It was the best of times, it was the worst of times.”
Things were pretty bad and they really needed to get better.
And in the end it took twenty years for that to come to fruition.
The dawn of social media bright all kinds of trouble with it. Insulated kids who were alone and at home after school, now had the tools to reach out to their peers and the rest of the world. That was not necessarily a good thing. Because we all know what happened.
Social Media brought the instantaneous attack to the fore.
You didn’t have to wait to have conversation locally, thoughts and feelings went global, like wildfire, overnight. And young people, like their adult counterparts were fair game.
Then we saw the ugly side of humanity enter the picture and teens began to kill themselves because of haters and internet trolls. For them it was not good, and it needed to get better.
I am here to tell my young readers that It Does Get Better.
You just have to hang on and walk forwards. Believe in us. Some of us have seen life get very ugly, we have seen human beings get very ugly (without the aid of social media) to begin with.
Suicide is Never an option. Your Life Matters. Every one of you matter. Even if you can’t imagine what that means on a greater scale, but you do.
All you need to do is page back and read. The history of what it was like, what happened and what it is like is here for you to study and learn from.
In just the last calendar year, life has changed so much.
Having all that we need, and being satisfied with that is no small accomplishment.
All you need to have is someone in your corner rooting for you. Someone who speaks kindness to you and supports you. If you can’t find that at home, find it here with all of us. Amid all the ugly internet assholes, there are genuine people who care about you and all we want is for your happiness and survival.
You’ve come so far and you have your whole life ahead of you.
Life is about the Journey, not the destination.
Just keep walking. Believing. Trusting.
We are out here.
You are never alone.
It Does Get Better.