Sunday Sundries … Trudging
June and July are Pride months around the world. Pride this year is ever so much more festive because of just how forwards many places in the world have become. The last year alone we have seen LGBT people recognized and laws changed and also how the perception of the gay community has changed.
However, that is not the norm in many places. Jail and death are the norm for some places who punish our LGBT people for being who they are. We’ve seen atrocities perpetrated in the name of religion in the Middle East. It’s abominable how some pervert the religion of many to suit their extremist ideas.
For many, in many places, we should be grateful for small mercies that we live where we live, and are for the present, free from being thrown from atop a building or imprisoned for who God created us to be.
The marriage business just got a huge boost in business this weekend.
The great thing about providing services to LGBT people is that we know how to spend money. And when it comes to love, marriage or any celebration, we tend to go ALL OUT.
It’s a pity that some are still so ignorant and stupid when it comes down to belief and practice.
I heard someone say, a few days ago that Gays and Lesbians now have the right to be as happy or as miserable as their straight counterparts.
Also that Marriage is not for everyone.
Committing to another human being is not a fly by night decision. For me, my marriage was a celebration of humanity. My husbands humanity. It was a celebration that he was still whole after months of treatment for his Bi-Polar situation.
I was telling a friend earlier tonight, because he inquired about hubby, that he was indeed well, and I explained that a bit further. The man I met and fell in love with was not the same man I ended up with, after doctors treated him, quite successfully for his condition. But that treatment was not kind and changed him from day to night.
I accepted that. Because I was not going to leave him when he needed me the most. So when he got up, we celebrated with family and friends.
Marriage was not something we took lightly. And God knows, He tested us to make sure this was what we wanted. Life threw us the cards and we played. More than ten years later, we do not take a single day for granted.
Marriage has changed the face of gay life. There are some who still run on the Grindr system and flirt with people and live inside frenetic sexual exploration. Never to settle down and have a solid relationship. We’ve had to educate ourselves on just what it means to settle down, and be ok with that in the long term. (My God, you mean I have to settle for having sex with just one person for the rest of my life ???) What happens to the local gay bar, if there are no single and happy with that crowd? There are plenty of APPS for that.
I loved working in the bar when I did, because of the people, not necessarily about the hunt. Meeting hubby was a one off occurrence. If we were off by seconds, we might have missed that perfect opportunity.
I would never enter the market again, should anything ever happen to either one of us.
LGBT folks all over the world are giving credence to our ability to settle down, become responsible and learning to love just one man or woman.
NOT ALL OF US THINK WITH OUR CROTCHES. AND WE DON’T LIVE IN OUR BEDS FUCKING DAY AND NIGHT, JUST TO PROVE A POINT !!!
Funny, all those wingnuts who believe that all we do is have sex, are so misguided. I wonder if they secretly long to be in our bedrooms watching to see if having sex is all we do, because they fixate on sex so much, their husbands and wives must be pretty sexually boring.
If only they really knew the truth.
It’s not all about sex at all.
The LGBT community needs to teach the world just what we mean and how we live with each other, in unity and love. We need to stand up and be counted. To attest that love is possible and marriage is something we take seriously, and that we can raise children just as well as our straight counterparts.
Because we know just how well straight people raise their children right?
- They toss their kids in the street.
- They send them away to be REPROGRAMMED
- Some kids are physically and sexually abused
- The drive to make money, supersedes the desire to be a parent
- Kids are ignored or starved
- They go to bed hungry at night, some have very little clothing
These are not generalizations, they are facts, based on what we see everyday or in print or on TV.
Can you imagine that we, LGBT people, would treat our kids the way WE were treated when we were kids? Do you think we would perpetuate the shit we saw from our parents or our communities?
We think NOT !
We shall see just who wins the argument on what sexual model best raises their children.
In the end, I know for a fact, that there are adults out there, who should never have gotten married in the first place, let alone have children. There are many of us out here, who know that they are gifts from God, having been raised by parents that did what they did to us. We might not have been created out of the best situations, but nonetheless we are here.
The least we can do, is to never raise children under that same model.
The world has shown us how kids have been raised. The picture isn’t pretty.
Just a few thoughts for Sunday …
More to come, stay tuned …